I am a feminist. I am also human, and with humanity, another core part of my identity, comes shortcomings and failure. When I inevitably mess up, it's because like you, I am human - don't blame feminism.
Apparently, Time has decided to vote off the worst word of 2014. The goal is to eliminate a word that causes you to "definitely cringe", "exhale pointedly", and possibly "even seek out the nearest the pair of chopsticks and thrust them through your own eardrums like straws through plastic lids".
One of those words is "feminist".
"Feminist" is a word near and dear to my heart. It saddens me that there are people out there who cringe at hearing the word for treating women as their equals. And it fucking pisses me off when those people want to get rid of a word to help erase the history of people fighting for the rights of women.
But it doesn't stop there. "Basic" is explicitly gendered according to the article. "Bossy" may imply that we should stop using the word as Sheryl Sandberg's campaign to encourage girls to take the lead desires, but the tone of the article implies that it actually means we should ban talking about the campaign. "I can't even" is an expression that people describe girls as using to say they're stupid. "Obvi" makes the list because people consider it to be "popular with people of limited intelligence, generally of the 13-year-old girl variety".
Anecdotally from my little slice of the internet, "sorry not sorry" and "literally" are associated with unintelligent girls. I admit that I assumed they made the list because I made that association, and I feel really bad about that.
So 7 of the 15 words are likely to be associated primarily with women and girls, while none are near as explicitly gendered with men and boys - unless you assume that successful tech workers and businesspeople are men. It's society wanting to censor women and girls' manners of speech.
From Time's list of "Which Word Should Be Banned in 2015?", I only use the word "feminist" with any frequency. Not today. Today, I'll take a mess of these words as my own to point out how much the gendering of this list upsets me:
— Liz Denys (@redroselet) November 12, 2014
You and I meeting
for the first time.
Together, we found
built in polygons,
yellow, orange, and red.
Places to experiment, learn,
The safety to
talk of speed bumps, loss,
But you and I -
an army -
propping up those colored polygons
to turn defeat against itself or,
make it something we take on
Places and spaces into
moments and memories and
bonds to hold onto
beyond those polygons,
yellow, orange, and red.